In honor of my sweet girl turning one, last week, this post is going to be all about her!
I should probably start out by saying that my baby isn’t a human baby, but a furry one. God is so good and I thank him everyday that He didn’t see fit to bring a child into the equation of my dissolving marriage. Instead, He blessed me with my Cavalier King Charles Spaniel, Marlo Ann.
In order to grasp just how much this little one means to me, we have to go back 21 years … to when I was 5 years old.
… I was in Kindergarden when I saw my first Cavalier. My heart grew so full of love for this gorgeous breed. I remember repeatedly asking my parents for the regal Cavalier King Charles Spaniel, but each time, their answer was a resounding, "no." (I never got the pony I asked for either …). They always said, "You can get one when you move out."
Fast forward to age 24. I got married and moved out. Finally! Finally I could have the dog of my dreams! I had great plans for this dog, my dog. (I had a lot of years to think about the details!) … I knew I wanted a female. I knew I wanted a Black and Tan (Cavaliers come in four colors: Blenheim, Tri, Black and Tan, and Ruby), and I knew what I wanted to name her.
I have an affinity for past decades – especially the 50’s and 60’s – especially Marlo Thomas and her show, "That Girl." In the show, Marlo's character was named "Ann Marie." So, it was only logical that I wanted to name my sweet, female, Black and Tan Cavalier, Marlo Ann.
Well, as you can see, my actual Marlo Ann is a Tri-colored Cavalier. But let's not get ahead of the story ….
I had all the details planned out, except for one…asking my husband if we could get a dog. Now, in the 3 years we had dated, he knew very well about my obsession with Cavaliers, so I definitely thought we could at least have a conversation about it. I thought wrong. His response was also a resounding, "No."
I was crushed. "Just give it a bit more time." I thought. "We're newlyweds, after all."
… March of 2013, we had been married for 10 months, and my husband's childhood dog (a Chocolate Lab) passed away. My husband began to look at Basset Hound breeders. Basset Hounds!?!?! I had waited nearly 20 years for a Cavalier and my husband was now looking at Basset Hounds on a whim!?! Well, I loved my husband, and my heart ached for him and the loss of his dog, so I went along with it. We found a breeder in Michigan, who had just had a litter of puppies, and picked out our precious, goofy, Watson.
Meanwhile, I began looking at Cavalier Breeders … just to see what was out there. My eyes landed on a picture of a beautiful angel, who was not black and tan, but Tri-colored. My heart and soul fell in love at first sight. I contacted the breeder to see if the little darling was still available, and held my breath until I heard back.
I received the good news, that she was indeed available, and mentally prepared to talk to my husband. Miraculously, seriously, by the grace of God, my husband agreed to let me put a deposit down and make the trip to Erie, Pennsylvania to meet her. I don't know if my husband had been planning all that time to leave me, so he really didn't care (he'd have his dog, I'd have mine) but it honestly doesn't matter … I was finally going to get my Cavalier, my sweet Marlo Ann!
It turned out that Marlo was only three days younger than Watson, so we got to bring them both home, in the same week, at the beginning of May…they were 8 weeks old.
For two months, my life and my heart were completely consumed by our two little ones.
Then, July 5, 2013, my husband took Watson and left. Marlo and I were both devastated. She began messing in the apartment, stopped eating her food, and would start running around the dining room table, waiting for Watson to chase her.
My baby girl’s confusion and heartache broke my heart even more. However, Marlo and I moved in with my parents (yes, they now have a Cavalier in their house!), away from the memories, and Marlo made a speedy transition. My four month old loved having more people to play with and the joy in her spirit truly helped renew my own joy.
People say that dogs make the best companions … I’m here to say that I have tested that statement. She’s more than a companion, she’s a comfort. I honestly believe that if it weren’t for my faith in God, my family to support me, and my precious Marlo Ann with her unconditional love, I wouldn’t have been able to get out of bed during those first few depressing months. She’s my beautiful little girl, my angel on Earth … my gift from God.
This past Christmas was an especially difficult and emotional time … as I’m sure all of this year’s “firsts” without my husband will be. One of my dear friends, knowing the difficult season I was in and how special Marlo is to me, sent a rather unique Christmas card my way. I just adore it and will treasure it always!
He wrote a poem and gave his permission to share it with you.
So may I present:
“The Song of Marlo Ann”
Fit the First
A wondrous dog once saved my life,
Now I’m her biggest fan –
So listen closely while I sing
The song of Marlo Ann!
Last Christmas Eve was cold and dark,
A silent night until
A howling, wintry wind did blow
Against my windowsill.
The rattle of my window pane
Awoke me from my sleep –
But not before a shady thief
Into my room did creep.
A beastly grinch with hair unkempt
Did hover o’er my bed;
His soulless paw reached deep inside,
Inside my very head.
Within his paw, he grasped a spark,
My hope of future bright;
He snarled and leapt away from there,
And vanished in the night.
Confused, I touched my aching head,
Bewildered at his ploy;
Initially, I noticed not:
The grinch had stole my joy.
The emptiness! The hollow feel!
No happiness in me!
The winter’s cold was now within,
Inside where none could see.
My joy was lost, my hope was gone,
No smile adorned my face.
They all had vanished with the grinch –
Were gone without a trace.
Yet while in my despair I wept,
A tickering began.
And then appeared a little dog –
That dog named Marlo Ann!
Fit the Second
Her claws did tick upon the floor,
Her stately paws untrimmed;
But she did hold her head up high,
Her dignity undimmed.
She yipped and yapped, and tugged at me,
So gentle in her bite,
But I, confused, stood wondering,
At this peculiar sight.
Then suddenly, I realized
What this strange dog desired:
She wanted me to follow her;
I did as she required.
Into the night she ran, I chased,
She hardly paused for me;
So eagerly she caught his scent –
His stench so sulfury.
Unto the Hocking Hills we sped,
Encount’ring buck and deer;
But racing onward, Marlo ran,
Displaying not a fear.
Across a stream and through the woods,
A wolfish eye I saw;
But Marlo scoffed, maintained her pace,
And faltered not a paw.
The snowdrifts piled high enough,
I thought that dog would sink.
But Marlo skimmed across the snow,
So fast I dared not blink.
So, onward I pursued that dog,
Until my lungs grew tight;
But even then, I ran some more,
I would not miss this fight.
And then, at last, that dog, she stopped.
She cocked her head and ear.
She growled and sniffed the ground again;
The Old Man’s Cave was near.
Fit the Third
The Old Man’s Cave was near at hand,
And there I smelled the grinch.
For sulfur filled the nightly air;
I recognized the stench.
Then suddenly, the grinch appeared –
A snarling sound he made.
I wondered if that dog would run,
But she was unafraid.
So cavalier her attitude,
Although in danger’s face;
King Charles himself would not disdain
To compliment her grace.
The grinch, he lunged, he clawed at her,
To kill her was his plan!
But she was quick and dodged away,
That dog named Marlo Ann.
An epic fight at once ensued,
A fight that none could see;
For ’twas a vicious, bloody sight,
I wished that dog would flee.
The grinch’s paw connected once,
I heard a fearful crack.
I prayed that dog would still survive,
If he had broke her back.
But Marlo Ann jumped up again,
She responded with a bite;
She chomped his throat and shook her head,
And ended thus the fight.
Defeated now, the grinch fell limp,
And then a spark arose;
My hope flew up from out his corpse,
And lit on Marlo’s nose.
It brightly shined, then flew to me;
That dog fulfilled her plan.
So joyfully I now can sing,
The Song of Marlo Ann!
– Michael B.
Marlo and I have held on to the hope, that Michael wrote about, and are truly learning to enjoy and celebrate this season of life that the two of us are sharing!
As I said, Marlo Ann turned one on March 5th, and we had a big Birthday Pawty for her on March 8th! Marlo has her own Instagram account (yes, I realize how that sounds … but you can find her at @marloanncavalier) and is on the brink of 1,000 followers. She is such a joy and I love sharing her with others. We have met some very dear friends through her account. Some of them traveled as much as 4-6 hours just to be here with us and celebrate the life of my sweet girl. So, I will close this lengthy post with a few adorable pictures from Marlo Ann’s big day:
(All pictures were taken by myself or our party guests.)